#LifeCoaches kicking ass 24 hours a day. #spiritual #guru #wiseman #wisewoman #humanfirst #spiritualbliss is #temporary

I recently read on Reddit someone asking how a very wise or “spiritual” person could make mistakes or be taken by an addiction. Reading this got my inner voice buzzing and I could not wait to speak on this topic.

I admire people who show their humanness. I played the perfection game for many years, and all perfectionism does is paralyze you into inaction, because you are so afraid to proceed and make a mistake, that you end up not taking any action, or an action that is “safest”.

I praise and I’m proud of the people who are happy with themselves exactly the way they are and show up exactly as themselves. I am not impressed by the people who try to impress others or obtain many degrees, certificates or labels. I’m not knocking education or achievement, but what I am doing is promoting showing up as yourself, not hiding under a label. I want a person to show up as a human with flaws.

When you measure your worth or value by either a societal standard or by the opinions of others you’re cheating yourself. Self-esteem isn’t the measure of outside approval. You measure your own personal success and your own happiness. You choose your goals based on your values and you decide how to measure it.

Wise people still make “mistakes”. (Mistakes are actually opportunities, which is a whole other topic!) Wise people are subject to the same suffering and life situations that we are all subject to, no one is exempt from being human.

There is no such thing as perpetual spiritual bliss. I don’t know if anyone told you but happiness isn’t a permanent feeling, it is just like anger or sadness, they are temporary, they come and go. There are several moments during the day where I’m not feeling particularly anything but I could say I have a general contentedness, that is until something gets me mad. 😊

To say a life coach, a spiritual guru or a wise man (or wise woman) no longer experience bad feelings or makes mistakes is ridiculous. A life coach encourages you to be fully human and express your feelings without any hesitation but then we also call on you towards action, to take a step towards the place that you want to be and to learn about yourself in the process. We show you how to value yourself and to appreciate your own worth in this world. It’s not about pushing you up on the social ladder or getting approval from others. It’s about you being you and expressing and accepting yourself exactly as you are and improving anything that you would like to improve by creating action. Your satisfaction level in life can only be measured by you.

You will make mistakes. You can be wise and human at the same time. There is no wellness cure, and if people try to sell that to you, they are lying.

We do the best we can. When you have a life coach, you have someone in your corner, pointing out your gifts, seeing the true you, cheering you on, and helping you create goals that will bring you lifetime satisfaction.

We are all gifted. We all have a purpose. We are all wiser than we think we are. We are human first, and life can be challenging. But we as life coaches, we take those challenges, we chalk them up as training and we move on and kick some ass. And then we show you how to do it too.


I cried and I love it. I’m scared of doctors and I love it. #Lifecoaching #expressyourself #trueyou #authentic

Have you ever “fake felt” something? It is sort of like living in denial. For example, let’s say there is a movie that you really wanted to see and had such high hopes for, but when you see it, it is just OK. You say you like it, and you really want to like it, but truth be told, it sucks. Sometimes I REALLY want to like something. And I like the idea of it, but the reality of it falls short. Have you ever had this in your life?

It could be a relationship that you really wanted to work out, but it just isn’t working. It could be a job you thought would be great, but it isn’t. It could be a meal you have been looking forward to, like Eggplant Parmesan, but when you take that first bite, you are so excited and want it to be firm and juicy, but the fact is that it is mushy and gross.

What are you tolerating in your life, what are you settling for?

When you are true to yourself and show up authentic, you express your true feelings, not just the feeling you want to feel. For instance if you are bothered by something, let’s say someone calls you a jerk, and you really don’t want to care, but you do, you feel bad about it. Part of you really, really wants to say, “I don’t care what others think, but YOU REALLY DO, and lying to yourself that it doesn’t affect you does not help you. It creates an inner conflict. When you ignore and do not acknowledge your REAL feelings, and just try to jump ahead and say you don’t care, you are doing an injustice to yourself. Your self deserves the acknowledgment of, “Hey, that hurt, and it did not make me feel good.” And then, only then, can you move on from it. Otherwise, when you suppress your true feelings they will keep popping up until you acknowledge them.

Sometimes I surprise myself at what I cry about, so no matter how well you think you know yourself there are times when you’re not fully aware of the scope of your feelings and perhaps you are not fully facing some of the things inside of you. For instance, this morning I was very anxious about going to the doctor’s for a physical. I already had my blood work and looked at my results and they were just fine but I have so much energy around going to doctors from being diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis that just the simple act of visiting a doctor terrifies me a little because I so just want to not have anything wrong with me. The act of going into a cold white walled doctor office makes me feel uneasy and resulted in me having a good cry this morning. So I have to acknowledge the fact that I do have anxiety when it comes to doctors and medical visits and I have to tell myself that this is perfectly normal and that because of my autoimmune condition and it is completely understandable that I have these reactions. I don’t get mad at myself for it and I don’t say, “toughen up, stop crying like a baby!” I’m not impatient with myself I love myself to fully just let it out and cry if I have to and then I say how great I am that I put self-care at the forefront and even though sometimes going to doctors could be scary for me I am going because essentially I care about my health and I face whatever I need to face head-on.

When I went to a workshop this last weekend for my life coaching school I saw some people, while being coached, crying, releasing and letting out something emotional. Then I witnessed some of those people getting mad at themselves for crying. When you get angry at yourself for expressing a very natural and normal human emotion that is not self-love or self-care. Sometimes there is a conflict on how people want to be or how they want to see themselves as to who they really are.

So if you have a moment where you are releasing emotions and you are crying, allow yourself to be exactly as you are in that moment instead of resisting, and instead of reacting to it. For instance, getting mad at yourself for crying. There is nothing wrong with crying, crying is beautiful, allow it to be released. I notice people also apologize for crying as well.

Over the weekend during one part of a coaching session I cried because it hit a part of me that had a lot of energy around, it was about my arthritis and the fact that I ran a 5k for the first time. I was so proud of myself to be able to be a human in front of others and to not be ashamed or embarrassed of my energy around these topics. I embraced it and I loved that about myself, that I feel strong enough and okay enough to be able to expose the energy I have about these topics in front of others, which happened to consist of some tears and exposing a vulnerable side of me. Afterwards, I received so many hugs and so many personal stories from others about similar topics.

One girl in the class came up to me after she gave me a big hug and said she thought I cried because she knew I was missing my home (we were out of town) and this reason or that reason, and she said “I could see now why you cried”. For a minute there I thought number one, why do you need to explain why I cried, and why do you need to rationalize the act of crying. You don’t have to do that for me, it’s just how I was at that moment and that is okay. In fact it is phenomenal, that I felt a strong energy and that I expressed it without hesitation.

I don’t need to justify why I cried or have anyone else justify it for me and let me know that it’s okay that I cried, it already is okay. I have strong energy around my arthritic condition and that is what makes me human, and the fact that I have powerful feelings around it is great because it inspires me to take action, like running a 5k.

So my point in this whole thing is Express Yourself, be who you are unashamedly and apologetically without any explanation or justification, JUST BE….

The Power of Pixie #Cat #Pixie #Resilient #CatShelter #Love

Pixie slayed me. When I first saw her scooting around the floor my heart broke into a thousand pieces. Then when I met her and petted her my heart glued back together and become bigger, warmer and filled with more joy than before.

I was in orientation to volunteer at Tabby’s Place, A Cat Sanctuary. As the class began I see little Pixie scoot across the floor, her little back legs sticking straight out on either side of her and her little tiny colored diaper around the teeny tiniest fuzzy butt helped her glide on the floor deftly, with the grace of an Olympic skier. I’ve never seen such skills. She was at the head of the classroom and made a beeline right for me and placed herself directly in front of my chair and looked up at me with these incredible green kitty cat eyes. I was hooked.

She clearly is the most resilient cat I’ve ever met. A paraplegic cat, with an incredible spirit, she is so friendly despite being injured by a human with a pellet gun.

She did not show any signs of being fearful in a room filled with strangers. Here she was, this tiny ray of hope in a sometime scary world, with this undeterred will, not allowing an injury to get in the way of being her cute self, scooting around like a pro, approaching people and melting hearts all over the world.

What an inspiration. I wish I could take Pixie home, but I work full time, have 2 businesses and am in school! Perhaps in the future I can, and that didn’t stop me from fantasizing all night long on how to Pixie-proof the house and how it would work with the 2 adult cats already at home.

Maybe by the grace of God someday I can care for Pixie, or someone else can be the lucky mommy to her. In the meantime, I will visit her, I will donate to her and I will be thankful that I got to meet her and be touched by this little creature with an amazing courageous and resilient spirit.

pixie Food

You can read Pixie’s story here and donate directly to her for her medical needs.

Pixie’s Story and Donate to Pixie


She is so cute!

Centering Techniques #centeringtechniques

• Deep breathing
• Stretching – My favorite is the Forward Fold
• Focused Attention – Putting together a puzzle, coloring books, or whatever your hobby may be.
• Releasing resistance
• Releasing muscle tension – imagine this visually as you stretch your body
• Live in the now, in the present moment
• Develop your awareness – So you know when your out of center and can take steps to get back to center
• Tadasana – Mountain Pose – Stand up straight but not rigid with your arms to your side. Plant your feet firmly on the ground and stand tall, imagine the top of your head touching heaven and your feet being firmly rooted in the Earth.
• Place your feet on the ground. Move your awareness to the bottom of your feet. Notice all of the sensations there.
• Get on the floor and stretch your whole body out, let out a huge sigh and let all of the tension out in your exhale
• Spinal Twists – You are a sponge, wring out the stress!

Freedom from the Chains of Blondage #blonde #redhead #confidence #value #lifecoaching #hair #selfworth #truth


Did you ever think you HAD to be something? To fit the bill of an ideal?

I always felt it necessary to be blonde. As if it gave me something a little extra special. And I could always use it justify victimhood. “I don’t get respect because I am a short blonde woman.”

Well I have no excuse now. I dyed it red. Will I get respect?

The truth is; respect is not garnered by hair color. I may get a superficial judgment at first glance, but when I open up my mouth and speak from my heart, that will be the true measure of who I am.

I do not know if I will ever go back to blonde. I thought it kept me young, kept me attractive, kept me valuable, kept me valid.

The truth is that I define my own value in the world. I deem myself to be of high value. I honor and respect myself, therefore others will respect me. And I choose to show up with confidence, no matter what color is emanating from my skull cap.

Is there something you do that may be holding you back? Are you trying to live up to an ideal that just doesn’t “fit” you or work for you anymore? Do some soul searching. Are you trying to be something you are not, or something that doesn’t resonate with you anymore?

Take that leap. Dye your hair. Run that 5k. Do something for yourself, not for anybody else.